Silly Love Songs

irritate me

Published on August 17, 2004 By my scabbed wings In Personal Relationships

My self centered narcissistic opinions follow.

Yeah, so I have a thought every day that I contemplate and have debates in my head with myself at work all day. My thought today revolved around love songs. "How did this happen?" you ask. Well, we listen to this soft rock, easy listening station on the radio, so you can imagine the artists and music that are featured. Practically all of the songs are love songs. I know what I interpret as love. But that is really of what I imagine it to be and what I hope it would be like. Isn't it like that for everyone? Everyone has their own take on it, and in addition to the deep down core of caring and being happy and....stuff.....

Which brings me to my point I wanted to discuss: I find it rather strange and somewhat disturbing as to what people interpret as love and loving and being in love, conveyed through the lyrics. People write these songs and people like them. *shudders*

The whole "I can't live without you" and "I live for loving you" sounds rather unhealthy and annoyingly needy. I am sure at first this seems awfully flattering, but do you really want a dependancy in a relationship? Sounds like a sick heartbreak waiting to happen. you'll "die if you can't have" me? Maybe you should. How worthless your life must be.

"I need you" and "I want you" are also common words stated. Hmm, I guess to some extent being needed is nice. If you love someone, it's comforting to know that you can call them if you need their help. However, needing someone to exist is just plain disfunctional. This also is similar to the "I am nothing without you" thought. Chances are if you are saying that, you probably have no personality or sense of individuality, so see the above comment about worthless people. "I want you" not implied in the sexual way is pretty damn cool because it's kind of like "I choose to have you in my life." Compliment city. To be wanted is awesome. You aren't a necessity, you are a benefit to their life. Imagine The Artist or whatever Prince singing "I just want your extra time and your kiss." How fucking hot is that!

I don't understand the silly imagery of angels and heaven and rainbows and magic and sparkles. Do you want to be "loved" by someone who is in some fantasy world with a childish view of who or what you are and what they see when they think of you? When you paint an unrealistic picture of what you want to believe a person is, you set yourself up to have the image shattered when the perfect being is broken out of character. There is no reason to be disappointed when we see the other person is *gasp* imperfect. Besides, if a person has some butterflies in their stomach and hears music when you enter the room and you are preceded with sunshine, chances are it's not love, just infatuation with something that will be fleeting. No thanks. Love me because I don't shave my legs for a day and leave the bed unmade at all times, not in spite of it.

Now we get to the songs of unrequited love and obsession. I guess these feelings don't necessarily go hand in hand. You can admire someone from afar, but not be unhealthy and obsessive. Actually I already discussed obsession earlier, I hate being repetative. As far as unrequited love, we all had someone we couldn't obtain. Yeah, cool. If we didn't try and fail every once in a while, we'd all be spoiled little rich girls. And I happen to know that you and me and everyone else finds it flattering to be the subject of the aforementioned "love" due to the simple fact of we all want to be desired.

Which brings me to the last subject, the cheating on your lover songs. Jeez. Way too many and way too familiar of a feeling for my taste. I notice every genre has tons. Everyone does it and had it done to them. I was discussing recently that my favorite band has a ridiculous amount of songs about having their woman cheat on them. Which brings me to the question of why the hell would you cheat on Led Zeppelin? They're Led Zeppelin!!!! God, women!! what the hell is wrong with you!!! okay, now I am getting tired and silly. No need to further discuss.

So 80's hair band power ballads make me laugh. They are just plain silly. Those goddamn Celine Dion and Bryan Adams type of songs make a part of my sanity die each time I hear them. Anyone who lives in their world and considers love something they could relate in any of their songs, I ask that you do not ever love me.

Wow, I am a tough critic today. I guess I am always when it comes to being unrealistic about serious subjects. Love really isn't a thing you take lightly, so I guess it falls under my scrutiny with good reason.

In closing, my two absolutely favorite love songs (because I am not entirely against them), are Led Zepp's Thank You and Stevie Wonder's I Just Called to Say I Love You. Simple, sweet, perfectly balanced. Just someone telling you how they feel. cool.

Good night. There is nothing more to say.

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